Life After Divorce: Learning, Healing, and Moving Forward

No one tells you how life will be after a divorce. I was married for seventeen years of my life and that’s all I really knew in my adult life. I got married 4 months shy of my 18 birthday, not the smartest decision to make at that age but when you’re in love, you make no rational decisions. You have no fear and just let the butterfly feelings take over and just do it. I’m happy I did because one thing I did learn, I overthink everything now and I don’t believe I could ever get married ever again. The reality is that I’m too analytical now and hardly allow my emotions to make a decision for me now. Relationships are hard. You don’t just marry your spouse, you marry their family too. You must really master how to build trust in order to have a healthy relationship with all of them.

Divorce just sucks. I was in a very unhealthy relationship and didn’t realize until it began to affect my kids. It takes two people to tango, I also allowed that behavior because I was too scared to defend myself. I would just put it under carpet, and not address it or seek help due to fear. I’m still learning a lot about myself so it’s a healing process. It’s been 6 years now since I divorced and I’m still healing. I just turned 41 years of age and feel that staying in an unhealthy relationship for 17 years, will probably take me that long to decompress. Time is something I will never get back. Time is not guaranteed either.